Makes Mistakes. . . . A Lot

I make mistakes pretty much every day. . . maybe even every minute.

I could make a really long list of all of the mistakes I made today starting with: turning off my alarm and sleeping straight through what should have been my 5 mile run. Then I chose "curly hair" instead of straight and it was like a downhill slope from there. You wouldn't think that pushing snooze and then using a diffuser instead of a flat iron could play such an integral part in my day, but I think that they did.

Tomorrow I am waking up early, going running and then straightening every last piece of my hair. Lets just hope that the rest of the day follows suit and that the mistakes are held to a minimum, because I am not sure I can handle one more day of wondering, thinking and stewing over mistakes I make and wondering how, if at all possible, to fix them.

People say you learn from your mistakes, and I believe that, but seriously I think that some people just learn and they don't have to make mistakes to do so.
I want to be one of those people.

Almost forgot I was 30

All that stress about turning 30 and I had almost forgotten that I had a birthday a few weeks ago until I started downloading pictures.

So far 30 is treating me well and only a few tears over 30 have been shed.

Heather and Jason made a great carrot cake for me.





It took me a while to get all those candles out.


Thanks to my aunt and uncle for hosting my sisters and myself for my birthday, since apparently the day of my birth wasn't too important to my parents and they were traveling other parts of the country. (They did call).


Camden and a half-smile. . . he sang to me lots that day and I think was more excited about my birthday than I was.

Thanks to everyone who helped me celebrate!

is one sibling closer

My little sister Heather is engaged and getting married on December 22nd. I am excited for her, just not excited for all the drama that comes with wedding festivities.

I think that in addition to whatever beautiful dress I choose to wear to the wedding festivities I am going to have a name-tag like the one above. Why not just eliminate all confusion right up front. Single is, apparently not what I am but who I am according to some people.

For the past 10 years of sibling/cousin/friend weddings I have had to put up with ridiculous, sometimes hurtful comments made by guests.

Seriously, why do people think that it is comforting and or at all okay to say *things to the unmarried older sister like the statements below!?

* These are all things that have REALLY been said.

My unsaid, sarcastic, yet true responses (that I wish I had the courage to counter with) are in blue.

"Don't worry, nothing is wrong with you dear." - (hidden message: I am worried about you)

"All those boys are so stupid" - "Great that is what I have to pick from stupid boys. Sign me up."
"You are so much prettier now than you were 5 years ago." -- Wow, flattered.

"Well, at least at your age you won't have to worry about putting someone through school." "Yep, I suffered through 2 degrees all by myself trying to balance a stupid social life -- glad I didn't have any worries about schooling."

"I have a friend who is just like you. She didn't get married until she was OLDER and she is still very happy." "Really, define "OLDER' -- like 22?!"

"Good thing we know that Heavenly Father has a plan for everyone." (Hidden Message: Have more faith.)

"Just enjoy being single while you can. I wish I hadn't married so early. You are so lucky." -- "Ya, that really motivates me to move on the marriage plan, since you are obviously unhappy in your marriage and wish you were me."

"Maybe you are to picky." "Nope, just selective"

"How is your love life?" -- "Seriously, is that any of your business?

"I have a nephew/grandson/best-friends mail-man/old boyfriends nephew/neighbor who I don't know/etc. . . that you should go out with! What is your number?" "1-801-nothanks"

"Sometimes, we all have to find ways to prioritize and do the things that are the most important" (Hidden Message: Your priorities aren't in the right place or else you would be married)

"Sister Oaks didn't marry Elder Oaks until she was in her 50's" "You figured me out: I am holding out for a general authority to have a spouse pass away. I love older men"

". . . . if not in this life. . . . in the next." "Yep, and my mansion in Heaven in going to be huge, even if I am all alone"

What I would like to do is ask them my own inappropriate questions, so that they can understand how ridiculous they sound.

“So, how much money do you make? have in savings? invested?”

“When are you guys going to have another baby…it is about time, isn’t it?”

“How’s your LOVE life (wink, wink)?”

“When are you planning on starting a family?”

“Do you think you’ll go on a diet soon?”

“How much equity do you have in your home?”
"Do you yell at your kids all the time or just in public?"

“Are you planning on doing anything about your receding hairline?”

All is fair in love and war right?


ps - congrats Heather and Jason. . . you make a great couple!