being single is a sickness

"How do we deal with a circumstance we never bargained for—and worse, that we never prepared for—that seems to affect all the members of our family and even our standing in society?" 

Sister Kristen Oaks

The "circumstance" that is being discussed in the above quote is the circumstance of being single (and LDS).  You would think that it is like a sickness (well a growing plague really) and that the cure seems somewhat unattainable. 

Here's how I see it:  When you are sick you go to the doctor. right? and he gives you a prescription for an anti-biotic or pain medication or whatever it might be.  You go, pay your money at the pharmacy, pick it up, start taking it (with a meal of course) and walah! you are better.  Sometimes.  Sometimes you are allergic and it is horrible and sometimes the prescription doesn't work and you have to try something different -- but all it takes is another trip to the doctor and you at least have confidence that you are on the mend. 

(I am not really speaking from personal experience because I don't really go to the doctor unless it is an extreme case or I am shanghaied into going)  

Anyway, you get the picture.  

The Sickness/Ailment of being single (and "quite a bit older") that is becoming a widespread epidemic. . . not so easy to fix.  
*Not a doctor to go to (I have been to some good therapists. . .but that is not what this post is about)
*You have to basically diagnose, prescribe and find the anti-biotic or pain killer all by yourself.    
*Just when you get the prescription and you are on the mend even headed toward recovery (aka marriage) from your single circumstance. . . boom. . . . the medication stops working (aka he stops calling or the relationship is on the rocks) and it hits you again like a ton of bricks and there you are SINGLE, alone and pretty much trying to find a new prescription (aka successful, healthy relationship) that will actually work this time.  
*You have to do this while also trying to deal with the devastating side-effects of the previous prescription -- which are inevitably present.  We all know that some side-effects of certain prescriptions never truly go away.   

I feel like some of the side-effects I deal as a consequence of dating/trying so many different prescriptions with little success are:

lack of confidence

lack of confidence 

and 

lack of confidence

I've had a lot of success ruling out which prescriptions don't work best for me or don't like my body (yes there is a double meaning there -- read it how you will).   My problem currently is finding the solution to fixing once and for all this illness. 


So, I guess the search is still on for finding a solution/perscription to clear up this single sickness. . . . I don't even know where else to go.   Sister Oak's is right in her quote at the beginning of the post.  How do we deal with this circumstance that effects not only us but our families and our standing in society. . . . . Any doctor's out there how have an answer?


I do however think that the dove valentine chocolate's I got in the mail today with handwritten valentines from my nephews will at least provide temporary relief.  

post edit:  I've worn pink or red every day so far this month to feel "valentine-ish" and it is kind of working. Also, I understand that "true healing" and peace can be found through our Heavenly Father and our relationship with Him.  This post was mostly just meant to be entertaining -- I am not really that upset about it (just thinking about it a lot).