I don't really usually talk about my dating life on my blog (like ever) and I don't plan on making this into a complaining post.
I just have one thing to say.
I don't know how to date.
Seriously.
Maybe that has been my problem all of these years. 15 years of not knowing how to date. That has got to be the reason why I am not married. Well that, or possibly my short hair. 50/50 chance.
I think I don't know how to, nor want to play the game.
These are things that a 30 something, cute, accomplished, wanting to get married and have a family girl shouldn't have to figure out. If there are rules in this game I am not good at knowing them, keeping them, or even getting my game piece anywhere past the starting line.
Why does it have to be so hard? Or, maybe the real question is why do I make it so hard.
Also, don't tell me that when it is "right" it is "easy" because I don't believe that.
I just have one thing to say.
I don't know how to date.
Seriously.
Maybe that has been my problem all of these years. 15 years of not knowing how to date. That has got to be the reason why I am not married. Well that, or possibly my short hair. 50/50 chance.
I think I don't know how to, nor want to play the game.
These are things that a 30 something, cute, accomplished, wanting to get married and have a family girl shouldn't have to figure out. If there are rules in this game I am not good at knowing them, keeping them, or even getting my game piece anywhere past the starting line.
Why does it have to be so hard? Or, maybe the real question is why do I make it so hard.
Also, don't tell me that when it is "right" it is "easy" because I don't believe that.
I don't know how to date. I just don't.
On a side note/very related note:
I really hope that he calls again, because if he is like all the others and done after one date then I might have to look into using my money wisely and taking dating lessons instead of swimming lessons and I don't think that dating lessons are going to help me in a triathlon.
Or maybe I'll have to look into hair extensions (much more expensive) since the verdict is still out on whether or not I just don't know how to date or my hair is too short. Let's just hope it isn't both because I would be out of money and then there is a 100% chance that I am not in the game.
End of the dating post.
You won't hear about this again.
Probably.
No Promises.
9 comments:
Hair - top notch.
Personality - beyond
Age - you're still too young
Rules - there are no rules
Mocking Jay - are we going to have a book club about it or what? Random insert.
Amber, it just sucks sometimes. Luckily you are not a sit and grow mold type. When it comes, it does, and then well....
Girl--if there were rules I was not privvy to them. Dating just sucks. No two ways about it. Love you though. BTW--aaron loves short hair and wishes I kept mine a bit shorter. Just thought I would share. ;)
Break the rules. If you want to see him again and he doesn't call in a reasonable amount of time, then you call him! What do you have to lose right? Sometimes I think guys feel like losers at the dating game too and kind of resign themselves to that fate. They don't get subtle hints, so if you make the move it may just be the encouragement he needs. How could he possibly see all the nuances of our amazing Ber in just one date?
Dating is really lame. I know exactly what you mean.
Confidentially, I sometimes think that marriage is a game too, only I didn't know we were playing and can't find the rule book.
Don't let your brothers convince you that no guy will want you because your hair is short. There are guys out there who like short hair. I've been a short-hair girl most of my life, so I know of that which I speak.
Oh, and go for the swimming lessons. The people who are teaching dating don't know what they're doing anyway, so it would be a complete waste of money.
xo -E
I don't mind the dating post. I think we all pretty much feel the same way. Dating is dumb! I don't think it's the hair because my exact opposite hair doesn't seem to be working either.
Yeah! I was wondering when you would post about dating, because I'm pretty sure it's all I posted about... All I can say is that I know a cool guy who has been divorced for a couple of years! Don't you love that line? I heard them all too, BUT if you two got together, you could end up in Vernal and I wouldn't be the lone married- at- 30- person out here. Yep, I'm selfish. Back to your post, I wish I felt accomplished, even half as much as you are... but there really is nothing anyone can say to make it better. Dating stinks. I don't think anyone knows the rules. Enjoy.
Amber, bring the dating posts on! They are real life and it is a part of your life right now. I kind of have to agree with other commenters that I think dating is just hard and I sure didn't know how to do it either. One thing I realized after I was done dating is that my shyness and trying to be a cool friend probably didn't help things out. I think maybe I would have done better at the dating game if I had been a little more complimentary, acted a little more interested, etc. Luckily Todd was stubborn and kept coming when he would ask me out and I would invite him to a group activity with 10 or so other guys there, but sometimes guys need to know that you are interested in them too. It's probably not your problem and your cute hair is definitely not your problem (I love it by the way), but just thought I'd share what I learned because there aren't rules, we all play it differently and that is why the game is kind of awful, don't you think?
Just know that you are awesome! I love how kind you are to everyone! You are amazing!!!!
Ugh. AMBER! I hate that you can't find an awesome guy to match your incredible personality! And feel free to keep posting about it. I don't mind, and enjoy keeping up with what's going on.
Ok, so Zumba tomorrow at 6pm. You free?
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